Note 2: I'll keep adding to the list as time goes on.
2. Learn to be aware of your thoughts. Emotions follow thoughts. In order to shift your emotions, shift your thoughts/focus. This brings me to the next point...
3. The objective perspective you're able to have for others? Use it on yourself. If you learn to master objectivity for your personal stuff, you'll take (almost) nothing personally and you'll suffer much less.
4. Have an intimate relationship with the body and have chunks of time everyday to shut down your mind. Engage with the physical and have fun.
5. People don't hate you, they just disagree with you. You don't hate people most of the time, you just disagree with them.
6. There is no such thing as failure, just an undesirable outcome (I heard this somewhere and it's The Truth).
7. Ajust your posture & attitude in order to control and utilize your energy. This is immensely helpful especially when you're "hunting" (trying to ace a job interview or staff reunion, trying to make new friends, or staying in your power around draining friends/family, or get the person you're interested in to notice you, the scenarios that benefit from this are endless). Don't do this only in public, though. This needs to begin in the comfort of your aloneness, and then it will get extrapolated to the social sphere. Integration happens over time as you practice. It's abut becoming a new person, achieving a state of being, not putting on a mask. Masks are unsustainable and draining.
Look at it like this: You don't go play a basketball game and expect to deliver greatness just by playing the big events once a week; you must have practiced on your own for many hours. Just like the mind shapes the body, the body shapes the mind too. Posture and attitude are skills that shift your consciousness and align you with a greater state of being that can manage life situations more gracefully and without feeling exhausted too soon. Thus, posture & attitude help with stamina as well as with managing your aura.
8. Understand the power of your warmth and calmness. Do not let anyone plant a seed of shame inside you when it comes to these traits, because they make us beyond valuable to those around us. Like that famous quote says "Don't let the world make your heart hard", rebel! I don't know about you, but I'm the calm individual during a crisis, and people rely on me for emotional and mental support in those times. I feel far from uncomfortable, on the contrary: I rise powerfully for others, and we all benefit. One example would be when my grandmother fell on the street. My mother and sister started screaming hysterically. Me, I didn't feel nervous in the slightest, don't ask me why, it's just how I am. In the midst of it all, I was the one calling the ambulance and giving directions clearly. Everything turned out okay. Another example would be when I found myself lost in London at 3am with my two best friends, trying to locate a hostel in a useless map. We didn't have any money to pay for another accomodation, and we had an entire week ahead of us poor as rats, without the option of catching a plane back home. The situation looked pretty bad, I guess. One of my friends was confused and lost in thought, my other friend was nervous "Where are we going to sleep! In the streets?! What are we going to do! Is the hostel fake? Now what!", I couldn't empathise with them, don't know why. I just knew that we were safe whatever happened, that we would figure it out. I even started thinking about going to get ourselves deported by the police, that would be so easy to do xD I ended up proposing that we simply find a coffee shop where we could crash until the morning.
Each person has unique traits that must stay untouched by the hand of insecurities induced by societal expectations. I'm often accused of being cold and detached and that I "should care more". I can assure you that my mother believes I am this calm during crisis because I'm a heartless thing who doesn't care about anything other than myself. Let people say what they want. There's a reason we are like we are. I do not care less, I just know everything's going to be okay, and if a group of people don't believe it, then I'll believe it for all of us.
9. Know and accept your hypersensitivity to criticism. When you know how you are, you take your own perceptions with a pinch of salt and rarely declare anything as truth. This goes with practicing objectivity. You don't have to put a ton of effort in becoming tough-skinned. Good luck with that if you try. What I've found is that in being aware of the fact that I'm prone to reading criticism when none was intended, I immediately understand "Well there's 50% chance that they insulted me and 50% that I made it up". Live in peace having the 50% doubt. That's detachment, the key to not allowing words to fuck up your wonderful day.
10. Learn to use/manipulate the INFP's natural invisibility & shapeshifting. If we can exploit this wonderful gift we've been given, we can see and hear things nobody else sees and hears, and we can move like a snake to get things we want (for ourselves and others) harming no one in the process. We have an advantage. Be cunning and lightfooted when hunting, this is our gift. The way we hunt best is by hanging around our prey & staying in a state of relaxed alertness, be playful and appear harmless (which is our nature anyway, we mean no harm), let the prey feel comfortable around you, be charming, and when it's distracted and you know it's time, grab it! There is a time for us to be aggressive, but it works differently than for other people. Usually we must be aggressive towards the end of the pursuing of the goal, and we must learn by trial and error when "later better than earlier" is actually "too late". Learning the timing of things is highly intuitive, in my opinion. The key is not to be quiet, no, it's to walk in short quiet steps. It gives people the illusion that we're not moving, but we are, and then.. zas! Attack. While others are aggressive, we remain a calm mass of water; when their fire dims, then we unleash our storm.
When I read The Art of War years ago, I thought "Holy shit, I've already been doing all of this naturally since time immemorial". Learn to manipulate your own talents effectively. Since they come quite easily, the energy spent is not too big, and we can dedicate a great chunk of our energy to do other things in life.
11. The key to number 10 is learning to be comfortable in your own skin and being confident in your abilities, especially the whole stay-alert-stay-relaxed state of being. And the key to being confident is points 1, 2, 3, 4, etc. Cultivate self love.
12. Be patient with life. Objectivity helps with this. Following with the hunting analogy, all human beings sometimes lose our prey. Perhaps we didn't calculate the distance right, the timing wasn't precise, or if the prey is a person, they simply don't want us. People are prone to engage in self pity, despair, and extremist thinking "That was my only chance in life! If it's not that one thing, then it's nothing!". Calm down, Romeo, don't drink the poison yet. We need to believe -and believing is first a choice and then a daily practice- that there's an extensive land of other possibilities in life, and that there's no such thing as "the only one shot". I like to think of this as Ted Andrews says, and I'm paraphrasing: If the eagle misses catching the mouse, it won't try to become a weasel. It knows without a doubt that there's plenty of other opportunities, it carries on without fear. It learns to refine its technique as an eagle, and each time it hunts it becomes more effective. Next time it will catch perhaps a mouse and, if not, then a rabbit or something else the eagle likes and that nourishes it. Cultivate that sense of awe and possibilities, don't get discouraged. The "one shot" thinking is only an illusion.